This weekend my husband and I were blessed by my parents to have a weekend away at a marriage conference. It has great to have a kid free weekend to reconnect and relax together.
Hosted by Family Life, the Weekend to Remember conference we attended was in Des Moines.
We both knew that even after 7 years of marriage there were areas we needed to work on. Areas that needed forgiveness and healing. And hurts and resentments we needed to hit the ‘reset’ button on.
MARRIAGE IS TOUGH! As an excited young bride I had no idea how hard marriage actually is. Adjusting to living with another person who may not be as today as you, or who does things differently. Discuss how the toilet paper goes on or the proper way to squeeze your tooth paste before you get married. They seem insignificant but when there are other hard things happening in your marriage like financial trouble, or loss, or depression, or kids, the little stuff can set you off!
Our speakers this weekend we’re Joe and Cindi Ferrini and Trent and Andrea Griffith. They were excellent. Full of insight on how to make God the center of your marriage and how doing that allows your marriage to reflect God’s perfect design. They shared Biblical truth, their own stories and examples to really hit home the importance of marriage to God. And how you shouldn’t give up, even when life is hard.
I loved how we learned about communication styles and how are spouse is. Communication is key to a healthy relationship. A few examples include the Land the Plane vs. Enjoy the Ride. I really liked when one of our speakers said the best way to respond when someone comes to you Fact to Fact, or Feeling to Feeling. Do not respond with facts if someone comes to you with strong feelings.
RESPECT Husbands need respect. It should be given even when we don’t feel like they have “earned” it. And don’t forget, your kids are always watching. If I want my kids to have respect for their dad or others in authority, I need to model that behavior for them.
Trent Griffith said that it can be hard to accept an imperfect gift. But that is what our spouse is. God’s gift to us, imperfect though they are.. He isn’t done working on them. So we need to choose to accept the gift, imperfections and all and trust who God is going to make them into.
There is so much more I could say about this weekend. But it should be a requirement for all engaged or newlywed couples. Help them start out on the right path. So go! Find a Family Life Weekend to Remember near you! They have them all over the country.
If you sign up using my group code Wrights you can save on your registration, for any City they have a weekend. We don’t all have to go together to use the group code. Click the link below to sign up!
Getting away together is so important, because when you get home, reality hits. We had a nice 3 hours to drive home and talk about what we learned over the weekend. It was good we did, because once we were home, the kids wanted all our attention. By the time we fell into bed, I was struggling to keep my eyes opened as Justin talked to me. You get busy with laundry and kids and dishes and jobs. Take some time and invest in your marriage!